what you have to understand about kink at pride discourse and the reason people discuss it alongside discussions of transmisogyny and things like drag queen bans is that trans women are seen as sexually perverse, deviant, and engaging in fetish simply by existing as a woman in public, and your arguments of “no kink at pride because of the children” is the exact reasoning given behind banning public displays of transfemininity
ex friends are like. last time i remembered you i got so angry i almost crashed my car. i still think about your laugh whenever i see one of your favorite scenes on the show we used to watch together. you made me cry 3 years after we last spoke. i think of you on your birthday. you are a part of some of the best memories i have of my life. i hate you.
“get a job” as an insult: piddlin. implies one’s value is determined by employment. feeds into capitalistic ideals
“get a hobby”: strong. cutting. implies that instead of feeding your soul and potentially creating something beautiful, you are here bothering me.
i can’t believe i have to say this but for the people getting angry in the notes or sending me harassing asks: if this post makes you feel attacked, it’s because you’re an asshole.
if “you should find something rewarding to do instead of being mean to people” reads as “problematic” or “antagonistic,” it’s probably because you’ve been told something similar after being unkind to others, maybe often.
and no, sorry, “get a hobby” isn’t ableist. i’m disabled. disabled people almost always have hobbies. we are as capable of creating something beautiful, be it a knit scarf or a cake or a nice memory, as anyone else.
telling someone it’s within their power to find something that makes them even a littlehappier isn’t ableist, y’all have just become obsessed with this weird tumblr narrative that you aren’t responsible for ANY of your own wellbeing and that pushing or enriching yourself in any way is EVIL.
stop being in love with your fucking misery, treat people better, and get a fucking hobby.
